This entry doesn’t have much to do with my blog other than the fact that its author is a journalist. This is my perspective on balancing my job with relationships and friendships and I just wanted to share it.
We are almost always on the job
Life is so busy and it doesn’t help to think about the fact that at least in a year I won’t have school to worry about on top of trying to be a journalist, because honestly that work just gets replaced with more stories to write and people to interview. The crazy part is, we love it. I love it. I crave the business and idea of the amazing people I might get to meet and it’s so exciting.
Sometimes, though, that’s a major roadblock for both long-term friendships and relationships. It’s tough to find a balance because I want to do everything, all the fun stuff with my friends and the inspiring, challenging work for a job that I love.
A lot of things come up last minute
I’ve learned this from both my own local experiences as a journalist and from professionals that have bestowed their creative, far-reaching wisdom upon various classes of mine throughout the past three years.
You’ve just got to roll with the punches. Stories are dynamic, moving entities and must be treated as such. Interviews get rescheduled; moved up more often than back. Filming sometimes ends early but usually goes late, and honestly sometimes I just get tired and wait until the last minute to get a story done.
We’re always in a rush
I can’t really think of the last day that I didn’t constantly have somewhere important to be, something important to do or someone important to meet, as I’m sure is true with the majority of college students.
Getting things done or getting somewhere on time is important to me, and I do my best to make that happen. A big part of that is surrendering personal contact with my phone when I’m on the job because my mind has to be focused on every possible angle of the story I’m trying to get. I don’t always text people back, I check and forget or I’m just done being on my phone because I use it so often for work. Naturally, some people stop trying or our schedules don’t quite match up for too long.
Because of all these things, I’ve grown apart from some friends and seen a few relationships end. I’ve heard everything related to finding that magic balance: “you make time for what you want to” and every variation of that. I’ve learned so much, though – things that I couldn’t have learned any other way – through heartbreak, fallouts, personal success, public success, and a lot of other ups and downs.
Some people get really impatient with my schedule and the roller coaster that is my life, but I don’t regret taking the chances I did and starting this journey. I am lucky to feel so passionate about my job and the work of other journalists, because some people just work and work at a nine-to-five and hate every minute of it. It’s a tough schedule to swing but I wouldn’t trade it for something easier, less stressful. Everything we do, we do for the story, and “those who tell stories rule the world.”